I know for a fact three of the women I am closest to in my life have been SAed by men. I suspect many of those I only know peripherally or solely online have been as well. There is no justification for this, no excuse. Men, we HAVE to do better. All of us. We must be the faculty in an academy of kindness, respect, and support for women. It won't undo the harm we've caused, but it's a step in the right direction.