Men, it is all of us, until it is none of us.

Gently,
It’s not trans men. Not systemically or socially. We are victimised by IPV and rape at even higher rates than cis women and also deal with ‘conversion’ rape from cis men and the pregnancy variables that come with that, with even LESS bodily autonomy due to the intersection of reproductive oppression and trans-based medical oppression. We have far lower rates of perpetrating sex crimes than even cis women. Cis men saying things like this ALSO adds to the violence towards trans men (cont)

because we then get scapegoated for YOUR sexual crimes (also a transphobic stereotype as is) and mistaken as having gendered privilege when in fact, we move *down*. It’s also why so many trans men feel completely disconnected to cis men. Our positionality is completely different and none of you put the work in to understand that and advocate for us too in the conversation of sexual crime and gendered privilege. Trans men and mascs have the highest IPV and rape victimhood rates of *any* (cont)

gender demographic and the only people that ever want to talk about it and transandrophobia in general are trans people. The only people with gendered privilege are cis men. Cis men make up over 90% of rapists and over 98% of mass shooters. The majority of sex crime is committed by cis WHITE men specifically, too. Y’all are going to have to start being a lot more comfortable with being specific about the problem if you truly want progress.

I see men posting about their rage over the rape academy (I can’t believe I had to even write that phrase). But your rage rings hollow to me. How many times have you stood by and watched as we were harassed, heckled, followed, threatened…For YEARS, fellas, you did NOTHING.

I have a really hard time finding you credible now.

As you don't know me, you are right to believe that I did all those things.

If you were too look back in my posts here, you will see I have been calling out on this issue right from the start. I have been doing so in my real life as well for far longer. But in the end it doesn't matter how long I've been speaking out. As long as groups like the "rape academy" continue to exist, and women are treated as they have been by men, I'm still part of the problem. I'm sorry for that.

Have you ever stopped a friend from harassing by a woman in a bar? Told a man to STFU when catcalling a woman in the street? For not letting a woman walk past him? Have you ever confronted another man? When?

I have. I've cut ties with friends over behaviour like that, and will continue to do so if I found out any of my friends behaved like that. I've stepped between men who were showing aggression to women. It doesn't matter though, it's not enough.

Good for you. There’s ONE.

Luckily, all a few men I know in my life are not men man that completely girly and almost like K-pop idols
They have no one in being a manly man and are making girls in their circle feel safe all the time and other way around as well
Why cant most men be like that?

Like not men but human

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then it’s all women aswell i wasn’t allowed to sleep at night unless i fucked that girl n now i cant sleep at night because i expect suffering if i dont

Thank you for taking responsibility and including yourself.
You know, men usually only listen when it’s other men calling them out.

Thank you for calling it out so directly 🫶 It takes courage to say these things when so many look away. I appreciate you for this.

It's not enough. It will never be enough. Not until men stop treating women like this.

No the fuck it isn't.

If you're okay being lumped in with them disgusting people then it says more about you than me 👍

Indeed. These redpillers are angry at women for their reactions to us, when they should be angry at men for causing it.

Thank you for speaking up! I think I can speak for a lot of women when I say: We just want to feel safe too 🥺

Yes, and you deserve to feel safe. I am sorry that is not currently the normal for women.

To be honest, I don’t even feel safe leaving the house after 8 PM. I’ve been followed by men and have had to run until I thought my lungs would collapse 😔

It’s not right that that is the truth that you live every day. I’m so sorry.

How about you speak for yourself instead of dragging the rest of us into your warped self image

How about you turn that on the men that are assaulting and abusing women. Bring an end to the culture that we men have collectively created and allowed to persist. I haven't dragged you into anything. The men that are abusing and raping women, creating these groups discussing how to do it, standing by silently as the men around them do the same... these are the men that have dragged us all into it.

That was an invitation to behave rationally. Not for you to propagate your opinions further

I suppose as far as they're concerned. What other choice is there?

It's really sad it has to be like this but it's the truth.

This!!! It’s gonna take us to change this behavior.

Damn right it is!!! Thanks for calling it out bro.

Agree!
Watch out for the incel/rape defenders

Angel girl has a point, why the fuck should I and other innocent men have to suffer because of the actions of 62 million rapists?

We suffer while there are men out there promoting rape culture. We all suffer until we change the culture.

Still we shouldn’t take their consequences tf? They did this, they should pay not us

We all pay

Thank you! I appreciate you saying this 🫶

My appreciation, real man. 🙂‍↕️👍

Gay man here, not us. Sorry to disappoint

This feels like real support 🫶🏼

It's all women until it's no woman

Is it too late to become a monk?

We need more guys saying this.

Yep! STEP IN

Please tell this knob that TIA