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Serious question, why do you care if a woman is ran through, if she not smashing you? 👀

2 types of men under this thread 😂😂😂

I think bc it breaks down a huge aspect of society as a whole. Hook up culture has ruined dating for a lot of people. When women are the ones seen as controlling access to sex, hookup culture cannot exist without women giving up said access. So now, when even try to form a relationship when people can get sex and move on?

I also think women see themselves as “more valuable” in the dating market because a lot of guys are willing to fuck them. “Lots of people use me so I must be valuable” (1/2)

The part that is crazy/toxic is that many men feel entitled to women, and the more men a particular woman has been with, the more entitled they feel.

The part that is less crazy is that many men feel that they ask but women decide. This leads to an opinion that a women saying yes means that you are wanted, and one saying no means that you are unwanted. someone who says yes to many people and not you is someone that makes these men feel inferior. Wrong for lots of reasons, but less crazy.

Men like to have a say on a woman’s body because they think she’s an object to be ran through. An object to keep clean. An object to keep pristine and shiny and new.

We are not objects. We women are sentient beings who are not at all available at men’s disposal to be bought, sold, ran through, or kept virtuous for their own ego.

We are human beings, who live lives till we’re 80-110 years old, we will continue to live our lives and do what we please with our own bodies.

If a woman is very promiscuous and she's acting like most men are beneath her, and she's spreading that energy to other women, then I may say something. But other than that, I rarely talk about a woman's sexual history. But for men who do, I guess people just talk about other people's business. Women do it too. They comment on finances of men they've never dated. They comment on who a man is dating. They talk about her race. They talk about what she tolerates that they wouldn't.

Healed men don't care, live how you want and do you. I think what it is, is that when a women is "ran through" and is looking to settle down. What type of man is she looking for? The ones who ran through her, or the the ones who would care for her? Because it kinda feels off if you've been around a few times now you wanna settle down and you're telling the new guy to wait. But eh to each their own. If she says no to you don't get mad just focus on you and keep it moving

Honestly for a lot men it’s the unknown. A known track record heading into it is different that’s a choice. Finding out afterwards when you’re already in the relationship hits differently. Finding out they’re creeping is worse.

Definitely a double standard that technically shouldn’t matter. For the most part I could care less about her past. The difference between entering a body vs allowing one to enter hits differently mentally for a lot of men.

Baby it ain’t about control or judging yall just to judge. It's about how people, men included, naturally read patterns and attach meaning to them. Even if she not dealing with me, behavior still signals things like boundaries, self-discipline, and how someone might move in relationships. Same way yall ass clock men on how we carry ourselves. So it’s not random male concern. It’s pattern recognition fr but that don’t mean disrespect, just awareness.

(How I viewed it when I was single)

There is a difference between a woman who has had sex before and a woman that has been ran through. Most logical thinking men know there is a high chance a woman has had sex before and it doesn’t really bother them.

For me if a woman was having sex every chance she could it could mean there were some underlying issues with her that I didn’t want to be apart of.

Here's another issue with that mindset: For some men, the number of partners they consider "ran through" can vary. Some men can run across a woman who might have had 2 partners in the same year and think she's the whore of Babylon.

I never adopted this mindset because when I was single, I was outside having big fun with The Wretched, so expecting a chaste woman would have been extremely hypocritical.

lol even us non ran through women get the same treatment from beta males 😂😂 I’ve been abstinent since 2023 & haven’t been with anyone new since 2021. You should hear men SCREAMING at me through the phone for not letting them at my place. Better yet, you should see how angry they get over text on dating apps 😭 now I’m every name in the book because I don’t have sex lmfaoooo

I can’t speak for everyone else, but I don’t care. I’d just hope she took precautions to protect herself. Most dudes that got shot to say about women are typically mad because they haven’t smashed or she doesn’t want to smash them and they can’t handle the rejection because they feel as if they were a better option compared to the guys she did smash.

My opinion only. A man determines if a woman becomes run through. A relationship that went south for her has her questioning whether she was worthy. Now she meets a new guy and he promises her he won’t be like that last guy. She gives in and now he is gone. All had to do was deny himself and she will mentally and physically become a better version of herself

Most men don’t have the self esteem to admit that women can and should have a life of pleasurable experiences. Or just experiences in general. Look, if you want to have sex with a person who loves 🍆, then you gotta accept they been enjoying 🍆. Bonus points if you can accept you probably aren’t the biggest or the best. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Honestly… that only matter if I’m trying to court her and even then… it’s moreso has she stopped for good or not. I don’t need to experience a relapse cause someone can have a low count and still not be faithful.

Otherwise, if I ain’t in it, I’m the guy telling his homegirls to “live life” and stay tested

🤷🏿‍♂️

Because being sexually free invites a “relapse”? If I crack my back wrong Is it going to give me acid flashback?

Where did I mention being sexually free at all?

You are inserting statements were never said or mentioned.

Since you wanna be slow… I don’t want to be with an actively promiscuous woman. I would hope I would be with someone who’s had their fun and can stop and be faithful.

Which is why I stated a relapse because being sexually active can be addicting.

That is it, that is all. There is nothing additional to my statement.

I mean it’s the same way they talk about broke men 😅 you not struggling with these men so why does how much money he has matter? Let’s apply this logic both ways because the way yall talk about broke men is alot worst then men not wanting women being ran thru… if u counting your own coins why you so concerned about a man’s money

We don’t. We use ran thru women too. We love all types of women but they all have different roles to play. The problem comes when u applying for the role u not best qualified 4💯 if u for the house u for the house 🏠👰🏾‍♀️💍if you for the streets u for the streets 🍾💃🏽but don’t be lying on your resume 😂💯

It's always interesting seeing women that refer to other women living their lives as ran through. I don't see why anyone would, could, or should care ab someone else's sex life. Man or woman, as Long as they're being healthy and safe ab it, let other people live their lives without passing judgement online for Invisible internet points

I don’t care. Mind my business. As for myself i prefer experience. Count doesn’t bother me in the least. Men who care about this shit are cowards who have no idea how to provide a woman with pleasure and are afraid she has a frame of reference to know that he doesn’t know what he’s doing. Virgins have no reference point.

We used to say to women we smashed but now dudes be lying on they meat. Plus social media made it a clapback.

But the sisterhood really messes it up because we know birds of a feather flock together so if a man sees 2 of yall congregating that we know got cash app bios, OF links, and Twitter accounts. Yall all catching strays.

1) Im not ran through
2)That’s a lot of energy transfers
3) If we’re in the same city, I don’t want a whole bunch of people who were previously associated with you.

Just in case anybody wants to call bs about energy transfers, the same goes for men as well. We should carry ourselves with some type of bodily respect.

If I don’t know her it doesn’t matter.
If I know her and am not pursuing her it doesn’t matter.

If I know her and am pursuing her I might feel hurt/self-conscious that those other guys have something I don’t - but still not a deterrent or indicator of anything wrong with *her*.

Basically, it doesn’t matter.

Because if we get together and she doesn’t do any of the ran through activities with me is gonna feel like a cheat, but seriously I don’t speak for other men, but I would feel some kind of way. I walk into any given establishment in my city in seven guys already know what the inside of my wife’s walls feel like

Some guys like to make excuses for not being chosen. If she don’t like him, it’s because she’s a whore, or a gold digger so forth and so on. It’s a lazy response to a bruised ego. Niggas typically wouldn’t be saying this unprovoked if he could actually bag her… shit is corny and outdated.

Honestly id rather my partners know what theyre doing and what they like.

Imagine you got a buddy who wants to help you renovate your place: do you want the guy with 2000 hours of electrician apprenticeship? Or the dude who picked up a drill last week?

Experience beats inexperienced any day.

You can also get experience with one person and not hundreds. 2000 hours “worked” doesn’t mean 1 hour with 2000 people. It could be 2000 hours with 1 person.

Id rather the guy who got 2000 hours on different jobs instead of just one.

Theyll be much better.

That’s just not true but hey, you do you bud

Bruh. Its a metaphor.

More experience is a good thing. Jfc

It's like watching a bunch of homeless dudes volunteering at McDonald's to make your burger. THAT'S why.. 🤮🤦🤦🤦 oh and you're like a PLAGUE on every other woman and DAUGHTER on the planet when you tell them it's totally COOL to be a run though piece of meat. 🤷‍♂️🤮🤦

For me, that's not the woman I wanna settle with... like the old adage says: You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. BUT I'm marriage minded. For the fellas just tryna smash on somethin' I dunno why they care. You'd think the ran through ones would be the ones they go for. 🤷🏿‍♂️

Y'all don't end the last situations properly, so we end up with some weirdo running up on us in the street, or you whispering on the phone in the bathroom, and it's just exhausting...
It's messy
It's not about the physical act, it's about the emotional ties y'all don't cut off honestly.

We don’t. It’s when yall approach us with these propositions that we take it into consideration. Example 1): you’re ran through but you want to conduct business, all for that. Scenario 2: you’re ran through and you want a serious relationship, now it matters. See the difference?

Because she lowkey dissing me she saying something wrong with me. Females be playing Jedi mind games ima dark Vador that hoe if she didn’t let you fuck fuck sombody closer to her spoil her and then ghost her and then after a couple of minds spin back for the the hoe that denied you

Men With Actual Lives & Motion Do Not Care About Who We Not Smashing 😂🤣. If U Taking Social Media Posts/Discourse As Actual “Caring” I Think Your Misinterpreting Opinions With Things People Actually Care About. There’s Also Disturbed People Out Here So 🤷🏾‍♂️

It’s not about ownership or entitlement.
People choose partners based on what they value, the same way women do with men.
If something matters to someone, they’re going to factor it in whether others agree with it or not.
Nobody has to like it, but that’s how choice works.

Nah we don’t care about women being ran through tbh we just care about knowing about it when we look to pursue a woman. I’d rather know how a woman gets down before I continue to pursue. At least to me it’s a preference when dating only. Outside of that I can care less

Most men think that women in general belong to them. Women having autonomy over their bodies really bothers a lot of men. They unfollow women when they get pregnant or in a relationship. Even though that woman is a complete stranger, they feel betrayed 🤷🏾‍♂️

Most men like them a lil ran thru hints why you see a lot of 304s married but they don’t wanna know they guys that ran thru. Example if you from North Carolina and was a 304 but met your husband in Ohio. Just make sure no1 on your list is from Ohio lol

Real men don’t care, especially if she ain’t in a relationship with you. If you know about and don’t approve of her behavior then just don’t worry about what someone else is doing cuz it ain’t your problem. Ppl need to worry about themselves.

The ones obsessed with a woman being "ran through" haven't come to grips with the fact that the only "power" in their lives is to disparage women who don't want them and that they fail to meet the standards of the toxic masculinity the choose to uphold.

I don’t care if you ran through, I’m just not engaging romantically. I don’t think women hate broke men, they just don’t engage romantically.

When I got in a relationship, some women unfollowed me 🤷🏾‍♂️ I don’t take it personal

Lady- I have been asking this question for years and it generally comes from the type/group of people that just need “something” to feel “superior” about…

It’s a pretty good tell on the level of hypocrisy that individual will perpetuate

Too many are insecure, they worry about fake shit like, "what if this dude or that dude from the past was something I'm not?", instead of realizing he's in the past for a reason, what he had is not wanted. Get your shit right, fellas.

The problem is that they are not smashing them so the try to bullied theses "ran through" women into giving it up to them 😂 bc they have no sort of attraction to get it on their own unless they pay. They barely got money,😂

Yep! The options are some flavor of:
-she’s not into him so now he’s gotta cut her down.
-his 🍆 game is trash & if she’s experienced, she’ll know it.

Either way, it’s misogyny, insecurity & a desire to control.